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Children from heaven: 5 aspects of positive parenthood
On how childhood passed, a person’s attitude to life, his ability to interact with others, to be harmonious, successful and happy, depends.
According to psychologists,in the first 5 years of a child’s life an 80% foundation is laid for his future outlook. From how these years have passed, a person’s attitude to life, his ability to interact with others, to be harmonious, successful and happy depends. Therefore, parents are especially important at this time.properly show your love and care. To clarify this issue will help 5 aspects of positive parenthood.
Children, as if from heaven, come to us as a tremendous gift of fate, which must be treated with special awe and attention.Parenthood offers the best opportunities for growth and full implementation.myselfas individuals, for cultivating universal values, for cultivating in oneself a sense of duty and the ability to give unselfishly. Want to complete your parental mission as successfully as possible? Then read on.
1.Love without conditions.
After the birth, the baby needs not only warm clothes, proper care and good nutrition.The most valuable thing parents can give a child in the first years of life is a feeling of unconditional love.It is important to love your child, not expecting anything in return. When children hear: "I will love you if you eat breakfast (you will clean the room)," this will contribute to the formation of deep psychological trauma.A child grows up as a holistic and harmonious person when he feels that he is loved just like thatwithout conditions, even when his behavior may be imperfect.
It is important not to confuse unconditional love with sentiment when parents allow their children to do everything. This approach has nothing to do with love. It impairs the quality of character and destroys the emerging personality.
2.Differences in the education of boys and girls
There are differences in the upbringing of a boy and a girl, which parents should take into account.The son is especially influenced by the mother.. Constant condemnation of the boy by his mother, criticism, punishment, coercion negatively affect his male nature and do not allow the qualities of a strong personality to develop. If, from the first years of life, a woman in every way shows the child that he is strong and independent, trusts him, makes him understand that he needs his support and help, then he grows up responsible, empathetic and purposeful.
In the upbringing of the daughter the role of the father is more significant.The relationship with the father forms the basis for the girl to create future relationships of trust with men. It is important for her to feel protected, loved, exceptional, learn to open her heart, share emotions and experiences, ask for help, advice or patronage. A father who finds a common language with his daughter, pays attention to her, makes compliments, listens when necessary and performs his family duties wellforms in her subconscious the image of a worthy man.It is in accordance with the way the girl in the future will choose her husband.
The question of punishment is always relevant in the education of children.Is it possible to raise the voice on the child? If parents shout at their child, then they have lost their authority in his eyes.Beat and scream at children is unacceptable, it speaks only about the weakness of adults. At this time, mom or dad seemed to convey the message: "I am stronger than you and now I will show it to you!" Such an approach infringes upon the ego of the child and forms in it a mass of complexes that can spoil its future.
Sometimes you can say something to the child firmly and slightly raising your voice. For example, during too noisy and hectic game. However, it is very important to be discreet and loving inside.Correct punishment is one of the forms of love.Therefore, it is important to punish children with love - in a calm emotional state, using the mind. It must also be remembered that the negative behavior of children, especially up to the age of 14, is a reflection of the behavior of parents and indicates points that adults should work on.
4.Harmony in the family
What does a bad attitude towards children and lack of harmony in the family lead to? To the destruction of fate, to mental and physical diseases, to the inability to build strong relationships, to receive and show love.Father and mother are the main personalities in the life of every person.. They represent the masculine and feminine energies and are almost the only example on which the child forms an idea of family life and relationships.
Naturally, not everything can be smooth. In the modern world, divorces are becoming more commonplace than the exception. In any situation, one should try to speak with confidence in the child, taking into account his age and level of perception. Harmony in the family is based on such values as mercy, mutual aid, forgiveness, gratitude, selflessness and of course unconditional love.If a child sees such manifestations in his parents and feels their support, then it is easier for him to survive any stressful situations.
5.The influence of father and mother on the future of the child
The influence of father and mother on the future of the child can be consideredfrom the perspective of astrology. Male paternal energy is the energy of the sun.It manifests itself in activity, dedication, determination, responsibility, ability to care and protect others. The poor relationship of the child with the father deprive him of the positive influence of the energy of the Sun.It is difficult for such people in the future to make decisions, to act in difficult situations, they become weak and infantile. Also hostility to the father can lead to aggression and despotism towards people.
Female maternal energy - the energy of the moon.This planet is responsible for the emotional and mental state of man. The negative attitude towards the mother in the future turns into a feeling of dissatisfaction, constant doubts, an unstable emotional state, and mental disorders. Without a harmonious relationship with the mother, children can grow up unbalanced and unable to love.
The future of our children depends on each of us.- whether they will be happy, harmonious and successful. It is important to fully fulfill the parental debt.In education, it should always be remembered that before us are children from heaven, the gift of fate, unique personalities.