Why is love gone?
Love is a bright and beautiful feeling. It lives in every person. When people fall in love, it seems to them that their feeling is eternal, that love will never pass. But over time their opinion changes. The lovers understand that their relationship has changed, they do not feel the same emotions.
After a person finds his soul mate, mutual and eternal love becomes his most cherished dream. But the statistics show not very happy results. After a certain amount of time, the whole begins to break into two independent halves, independent of each other. Why is love gone? Where is she gone? How to understand that love has passed? What contributed to this? Let's figure it out.
Why love passes
In the media, the phrase that “love is a chemical process” is increasingly heard. Scientists have identified hormones that are responsible for each stage of love relationships. They also proved that love is not eternal. How much love goes through? Representatives of the older generation can answer: "Love lives for three years."And they are right, although they rely only on life experience, not science. According to scientific research, it turns out that love passes between two and four years. At best, it develops into attachment, if during this period of time children have had time to appear in the family, because in this case hormones fade into the background. But this attachment also disappears after seven years from the beginning of the relationship.
Why does love pass? Studying the chemical side of love, researchers have identified the molecule "REA". How to find out if you have it? If you cannot live a day without your beloved, if without it you are not cute and you want to constantly touch him, hear his voice, and so on, then you have the PEA molecule. This molecule promotes the production of the hormone endorphin, also known as the hormone of joy. The human brain quickly gets used to hormones and constantly requires new inputs. But the problem is that the “REA” molecule disappears in 2-4 years, which means that the hormone endorphin ceases to be produced in the same quantities. But the brain continues to demand it! And encourages people to look for a new partner.
Of course, all people on Earth want to love and be loved. They want to see their soulmate next to them. When the relationship is just starting to develop, the thought of breaking up and not thinking of getting into the head of those in love. But the situation may change not for the better. Somewhere the former tenderness, caress leaves, and anger appears. The couple is increasingly unable to come to a common opinion. Quarrels, unfortunately, are becoming more frequent. And the most terrible moment comes - the break of the seemingly strongest and eternal relationship. This is the most commonplace and common example.
If you think well, you can come to this conclusion: people are to blame for the fact that love passes. The man himself is to blame. He just can not find a way to save the relationship. Most often, if one notices the shortcomings of the other, then he tries to get rid of them, begins to teach and educate by his own laws. Ultimately, this leads to a rupture. But there is no point in this. After all, we are already adults. We will never do what we are told, ordered. Our personality has long been formed. We are what we have. And we must love with all our shortcomings. This is how the first conflicts arise.All people have some peculiarities peculiar only to them. Challenging them will never lead to something good. Only hatred and irritation will arise. Here the well-known proverb is justified: "One step from love to hate."
How to understand that love passes
Observe your relationship with your beloved. Do you want to spend as much time together? Do you miss parting, trying to find options for joint rest? If you have answered negatively to these questions, it means that the time for your love will expire.
Of course, there are other reasons for breaking off relations. Again, back to the moment when only these relationships begin to develop. First, people get to know each other, then they begin to get to know each other closer and closer. Talking about ourselves, sometimes we do not notice how we wish to wishful thinking. Soon our new friend will fall in love with this "desired". And as you know, all secret always becomes clear. It is here that the next disputes will begin, disagreements, irritation will arise.
Understand that love is passing, and only a couple who value their feelings can prevent this.Previously, divorces were not accepted, and people lived together until old age. They were able to build their relationships in such a way that the feelings did not fade away for a long time, and the little fire of love was burning until death. In modern society, everything is much simpler. People do not know how and do not want to seek compromises. They calm themselves with the thought that love is not eternal, and even scientists have proved it. So you can look for new relationships. People do not appreciate what they have. Constantly looking for new experiences and sensations. If they do not find it in the family, then, not trying to rectify the situation, they start a new relationship. Families fall apart, and unhappy people become more. But if adults can still cope with the care of a loved one, then children are much more difficult to do. Now a huge number of children brought up in single-parent families. So, before their eyes there is no example of an ideal family in which parents love each other. In the future, it will be very difficult for such children to build their family based on love.
If love has passed, and you blame your partner for this, then you are making a big mistake. Love is a relationship of two people, and therefore, it is necessary to maintain the relationship together.Remember this and take care of your love!
Considering these cases, we can draw small conclusions. For example, that the first differences are born after the candy-bouquet period ends. We know very well that a small altercation can lead to a grand scandal that breaks.
Can love pass
Of course, maybe, if we do nothing to maintain our relationship with a loved one. Love is like a flower. If it is watered and fertilized, it will flourish and will delight us for a long time. But if we forget to take care of it, then it fades and dries and, in the end, disappears completely.
What to do if love has passed
Let's face the next enemy of love. It is boredom. Boredom is a terrible reason. She begins to emerge with the beginning of the development of relations. This happens almost imperceptibly, quietly and calmly, because we were promised golden mountains to groom and cherish. Of course, we begin to believe in fairy tales, they seem to us to be true. But soon we will get tired of such "noodles". Gradually, perhaps we will get used to it. This is where the enemy of our love will wake up.We will be bored, want something new, any new impressions, maybe even new acquaintances. And then everything will be as described above. Quarrels, mutual reproaches, some disagreements, feelings will slowly begin to fall asleep. To prevent the occurrence of boredom, it is necessary to express themselves a little. Come up with something new, please and surprise your soul mate. This will warm up interest in your person. Well, and you will be glad and receive a positive charge of energy from those emotions that you present to your loved one. He will look forward to continuing.
Another option is to go in search of a new partner. But if you still want to stay in a pair with the man you loved before, then try to update your relationship. If we assume that love is a chemical reaction, then try to maintain it at the proper level and not let love go out. Since our brain needs hormones, then feed the brain of the beloved with new impressions, emotions, stimulate his work and the production of hormones. Then your love will last for many years. No one guarantees you the emotions that are characteristic of the first three months of love.But this is not necessary. Indeed, at the beginning of a relationship, a person is under stress, and it cannot, and should not, last forever. Just your love will move to a more relaxed stage, in which your body will be more comfortable. Appreciate your feelings and the feelings of your loved one.